The Optimistic Mind
Why are some of us more
optimistic than others? How do we stay optimistic? The research in the
field of behavioral science called positive psychology is quite
interesting. Here are some of the findings:
- Optimists get paid more, are healthier,
happier, live longer, and are better at dealing with uncertainty and
change.
- Optimism is a skill that can be learned and
developed.
- We are more effective if we focus on not being
negative rather than trying to be positive. The goal is more to
reduce pessimism than to increase optimism. Optimism is not so much
about the power of positive thinking as it is the power of
non-negative thinking.
- Optimists and pessimists are not two points on
a continuum they are separate and distinct ways of focusing.
- Researches guess that about 25% of your
optimism traits are programmed into your DNA. Early upbringing and
the effects of life’s ups and downs shape the rest.
- Children are an especially optimistic group.
- Females are more optimistic and more
pessimistic than males because they tend to have a greater emotional
range.
- Optimism ebbs and flows during the day and can
also be affected by fatigue and illness.
- The secret of staying optimistic is in how we
explain positive and negative situations to ourselves. We all have a
voice only we hear that tells us how to interpret what is happening
around us. The optimistic voice affirms us and predicts good
outcomes. The pessimistic voice criticizes us and warns of trouble
ahead.
- By the time we’re around eight years old the
ways we interpret our world become habit.
- Researchers have identified key aspects of the
optimistic mindset that allows an optimistic person to maintain a
sense of control:
- They see problems as temporary
- They externalize problems (When troubles
occur, optimists protect their self worth by looking for all the
factors that contributed to the situation rather than simply
beating themselves up)
- The look at difficulties as being limited
and avoid generalizing or exaggerating
- When good events happen, they find
internal reasons for their success—they were prepared, they were
focused, they were confident, etc.
- They believe success breeds success.
- The key aspects of the pessimistic mindset:
- They accuse themselves of being the root
cause of their problems
- They see bad events as permanent
- They exaggerate the extent of the damage a
problem will cause
- They deny credit when good fortune occurs
- Successes are viewed as temporary with
little long-term effects
- They practice using the “c-words”-
complaining, commiserating, criticizing, and “catastrophizing.”
- Approximately 70% of our negative thoughts
occur without us consciously perceiving them as negative. We need to
pay attention to our thoughts and remember the most effective way to
deal with negative thoughts is by not letting them take a foothold
in the first place.
- Being able to reframe an experience in order
to see the good in a bad situation is a powerful trait of the
optimistic mind.
- Hope is essential to the optimistic mind. In
a hopeful state we see possibilities and solutions rather than
limitations and problems. If you doubt the importance of hope, all
you need do is think about how you feel when it slips away and you
find yourself in a state of hopelessness.
- Gratitude and forgiveness are two other states
that are important to maintaining an optimistic mind. As previously
stated, the best way to build optimism is by eliminating negative
thinking. Gratitude allows us to focus on what is positive in the
present and forgiveness allows us to have a hopeful future.
- Focusing on our strengths also helps promote
optimism. When we feel competent and confident, it is virtually
impossible to have pessimistic thoughts.
There’s much more research on this fascinating
subject. If you’d like to learn more about how you can bring an
optimistic attitude to your organization, I’m a phone call or email
away.
Oh, and one
more thing, I hope you decide to have a great day! (Most optimists do)
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